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Friday, February 17, 2012

Mommy's Need Alone Time

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**Note: This post is written from the view point of a SAHM/WAHM but this is for all the Momma's! Regardless of your employment situation, I've been there too.**

Am I right or Am I right? I"m with these little creatures 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year. Yes, I just called them creatures. That's what they are. You know it and I know it. Someday, 20 or so years from now I hope that I can say my greatest accomplishment is that I produced 2 self sufficient, honest, responsible, functioning members of society. But for now, they are creatures. What? Why are you looking at me like that?!

Moving on...

Before I was married & a Mommy I was the independent, free as a bird, doing what I wanna do when I wanna do it just because I can kinda girl. Yea, that went right down the chute, and quick.

Do you know when the last time I spent more than 10 minutes alone was? And I'm not counting the toilet or the shower because let's face it - we are NEVER alone in there! It's been weeks. Probably months. When I finally got a few minutes by myself, do you know what I had the luxury of doing??  I went to the grocery store. Yup, the grocery store. Now it's important to mention here that I happen to love grocery shopping since I'm like a frugal queen, or something, but that is not the point. Grocery shopping and running errands do not count as alone time, although right now, I'd take it!

Mommy, you NEED alone time. If you aren't sure why, read on!

Alone time keeps you in tune with YOU. Think about it: All you do these days is change dirty diapers, wash dirty laundry, make dinner and clean dirty dishes. You are so busy saving the world one scraped elbow at a time that you haven't noticed that you need a manicure, could use a workout, are neglecting your scrapbooks, or that you haven't touched a single book on your reading list. Losing yourself in parenting is easy to do. I'm guilty of it, obviously, and it sucks. Eventually you wouldn't even know where to begin enjoying yourself if you somehow accidentally stumbled upon alone time!

It will make you a better parent: I've got these little buggers up my rear end all day long. I'm running around like crazy making breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Filling up juice cups, picking up shoes and dirty panties (cause my kid thinks she needs to change 13 X's a day. Little DIVA!), letting the dog out. Then back in. Then back out. Running kids to play dates. Cleaning the kitchen from breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Whatever, you get the point. On a typical day I'm super busy, stressed out and most likely exhausted. My patience are thin and sometimes I'm quick to get angry. And yell. Which I do NOT like to do. My kids don't deserve to be treated that way because they are just being kids! I've found that even a small amount of alone time on a regular basis really helps me to remain calm and patient from day to day.

Your relationship will improve: My hubby hates coming home to a cranky wife. Poor guy, he really gets the shit end of the deal. He comes home, I'm cranky, and he has to take over the kids immediately so I can take a 5 minute break. He is a trooper though! Don't y'all know, "If momma ain't happy ain't nobody happy?" Not to mention, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." 

Run away ladies, hide, be alone! An hour, a day, or if you're lucky enough, a whole weekend away! Make some time for yourself.

What is your idea of alone time well spent?

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  1. My idea of heaven: uninterrupted reading of a long awaited book. When our kids were younger, my husband would take charge of them, put a do not disturb sign on my door, and leave me to read....I'd never loved him more!

  2. Oh, what a prince!! My DH is not a reader so he just doesn't "get" it. I have to run off to the bathroom and lock the doors behind me to get a few minutes of quiet reading time!! lol


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