Catch 22

Pouring My Heart Out Today.

I started this blog for many reasons; when I first began blogging I was a coupon blogger but I burnt out on that pretty quickly. I knew that I had more to say and share with people than just the latest deals (no offense to coupon bloggers - I give y'all HUGE props for what yo do - it's hard!). I began writing in this space to share my life, my heart, and my family. Any blogger knows that when you start a new project all you really want is for people to read what you write, to love what you write, and hell we really love it when you share what we write. Am I right y'all?

It took some time but as I continued to publish more content and engage with my audience my readership grew, and it has continued to grow. My  numbers are small compared to many standards but I have Google Analytics - I know y'all are there! I'm thankful for my loyal readers. However - it seems that I've found myself in a bit of a catch 22 here lately. 

I longed for readers in the beginning, but now there are people reading my blog that I wish would stop reading! There are people who have taken it upon themselves to lurk in the shadows of the internet to read up on me and my life. Is it curiosity? Is it jealousy? Are you just plain nosy? My God, stop torturing yourself with every tiny detail of what is going on over here because it's really none of your business.

Except for when you do.

Knowing that certain people read this space kept me from writing for awhile; I felt sorry for some of you because you were subjected to reading things that you probably didn't want to see. I felt like I had to hide my happy so that I wouldn't offend or hurt feelings. Why I felt the need to protect you is absolutely beyond me. I didn't want to share my life with you; I didn't want you to know me. I didn't want you to know my story.

I made the decision a long time ago to share my life in a public way by writing this blog. I made that decision and I have to deal with the fact that what I write here is open to anyone who chooses to read it. I can't stop you from coming here and obsessing over what I write. That's fine! If you want to torture yourself with the details of my life go right on ahead. I appreciate the boost in page views. While I don't love knowing that you've been here creeping (and I do know) it doesn't bother me so much anymore. I just smile and shake my head and go on about my day. 

So for those of you reading from the dark corners of the internet (you know who you are): I hope you enjoy your time here, and I figure you must since you keep coming back. 

Bet You Didn't Know

I share lots of information with you on this blog, but I'm willing to bet that there is still plenty that y'all don't know about me! So...I made a little list (checked it twice, but not really) and here it goes:

Kidding, sort of. 

1) I'm addicted to Sonic ice. Nearly every day I buy a Route 44 Coke with extra extra ice! Chris says I need my "fix." Hey - at least I go during happy hour!

2) I'm clumsy as all get out. I'm talking running into walls, tripping over my own two feet & banging my head on the shower door. 

True Story

3) I'm horrible with movie quotes. We will watch a movie & immediately afterwards Chris will quote it and I'm like "huh?" Completely lost.

4) I have way to many irons in the fire. I'm a multi-tasker of multi-taskers. I come up with a new idea and I run with it until I'm out of steam. I've typically got 3-4 projects going on at once. I just can't help myself.

5) I love to explore! I am all up for being spontaneous and checking out random places. Be it a store, restaurant or a town. I'm down for whatever!

6) At any given time there is a significant possibility that I will have at least 6-10 browser windows open at once (HELLO - MULTI-TASKING!). It drives certain people crazy, but I'm used to it.

7) I tend to make BIG last minute decisions. Like just last week, I decided that I want to fly to San Jose in July for BlogHer 2014. Is that gonna happen? Probably not....unless we hit the lottery & then I'm taking my man on a vacation to sunny California! 

8) I really enjoy cooking for other people. It actually makes me happy to see other people enjoying my food. I'm always making extra food or baking cookies for Chris to take to school and/or work. He will call me and tell me how good it was and that all the guys LOVED whatever I sent. It's a good self esteem booster! 

9) I seriously HATE putting away laundry. You guys probably already know that though because I hate it so much that I'm quite certain I've mentioned it at least once or twice. I thought about showing you a picture of the mountain of clean laundry on the back of my love seat right this very minute, but that would be just too much for anyone to take. You'll just have to trust me, it's bad! 

10) In my personal opinion, there aren't many cuter things in life than baby elephants.

You can't even argue with me on this!

They just look so darn happy all the time! 

Okay, your turn! Tell me something I probably don't know about you! 

Don't be shy!

Ashley Madison Makes A "Family Man?"

So, right now, I"m seriously disgusted and this post might be a bit of a rant. Sorry in advance. Except, no, I"m really not sorry.

So I ran out yesterday afternoon - to vote, to pick up diapers - that type of thing. Of course I had my kids in the car; I have Sirius XM in my car and I decided to turn on MSNBC to listen to the Election coverage.  Within seconds of turning MSNBC on I hear a commercial for Ashleymadison.com. I'm not linking to it y'all - if you want to check it out - google it. It's complete sleaze. 

Anyway, if you don't know, that site is one where folks can go looking for other folks to have affairs with. For MARRIED FOLKS to look for other MARRIED FOLKS to have a secret rendezvous with. Now listen, I"m not stupid - I know this shit happens all the time. It's not my business what you or anyone else does behind closed doors. I don't care - until you start throwing it in my face and subjecting my children to this crap!

So, it's not so much the website that  is causing my uproar. I don't like it, but whatever...the radio ad that I heard is the problem.

My jaw literally dropped when I heard this coming through my car speakers:

"Ashley Madison Man, that's who I am. Workin' hard for my famileeee. Ashley Madison Man, does what he can. Ashley Madison, helps me stay at home. Now I can mix business with pleasure."

Wait, what the f&ck?

You've got to be kidding me.

A) Is this ad a total freaking joke? Who comes up with this crap? Guys (or gals!) - if you think cheating on your spouse through an organized website like Ashley Madison makes you a "family man" you need to seek help, immediately. 

B) Hello Sirius XM - I realize that you are private radio - because I pay a bill twice a year for my subscription. I would gladly pay more for you to get this scum off of your airwaves.

C) Don't advertise this crap during peak times when families are in their vehicles going to organized sporting events, running errands, church, etc.

I listen to my Sirius XM 99.9% of the time and I have NEVER heard this commercial until today when I tuned into MSNBC for the first time. I don't know if it is MSNBC or Sirius but either way, I'm disgusted.

I feel like this radio ad is a complete slap in the face. Ashley Madison's "family man" is working hard at cheating on his unsuspecting wife while she is at home busting her ass taking care of the kids, the home, and her "family man."

This radio ad is crap & I'm pissed at Sirius for running it.

Am I the only one who finds this absurd and insulting?

I'm pouring my heart out.
                                  

Excuse My French

 

*Sigh*... So, I have been stalling around, avoiding writing this post for a few days now because I didn't even really want to talk about it. It makes me sick to my stomach just thinking about it...but it's on my mind and I need to share...

In February, my husband bought me a brand spanking new car. I'd never had a brand new, never owned before car and I was ecstatic. 

Well y'all, my new car is newly fucked up. Excuse my French. 

We were rear ended on Friday night. My entire family was in the car. My babies were in the car. I thought my husband was going to go to jail for assault. He NEVER touched the guy, but it came close, A FEW TIMES.   

Neither my husband nor I have ever been in a car accident before as vehicle owners/drivers. Let me tell y'all, this is a pain in the rear. Insurance companies, doctors, lawyers, phone call after phone call. I don't like this B.S.

We've hired a lawyer because we can foresee some issues arising with this situation, so I can't give y'all the nitty gritty right now. Everyone is mostly okay though.

Hopefully soon I can share all the pictures of my poor car, all busted up!! 

I'm so sad over all of this!! My poor babies had to go through the trauma of being in a car accident. My sweet Addison had to learn the hard way why Mommy always makes her "stuck" in her car seat. 

Tough way to learn a lesson, right?

Have you ever been in a car accident?

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